Stay (I Missed You) - Wikipedia"Stay (I Missed You)" is a song by American singer- songwriter Lisa Loeb. It was released in May 1. Reality Bites (1. The song was written and composed by Loeb herself, while production was handled by Juan Patiño and Loeb, who previously produced some of her songs back with Nine Stories.

Stay" was originally conceived in 1. Nine Stories, who were then featured in the song (they were credited separated from Loeb). Loeb's neighbor and friend, actor Ethan Hawke had found out about the song and submitted it to actor Ben Stiller's directional film soundtrack Reality Bites which was then accepted. Musically, "Stay" is a pop rock song that has been influenced with folk music. Lyrically, the song deals with a relationship that is in trouble, but the singer tries to reconcile with her lover."Stay" received positive reviews from most music critics, who praised the lyrical and production side and likened the song's commercial potential. Several critics had listed the song in some of the best song lists. Stay" ultimately went on to become a number- one hit on the Billboard Hot 1.

U. S. chart before being signed to any record label. The song was commercially successful in countries including New Zealand, Australia and the United Kingdom. The song's music video was produced and directed by close friend Ethan Hawke who lived near her apartment in New York City. For their performance of the song Lisa Loeb and Nine Stories were nominated for a Grammy for Best Pop Performance by a Duo or Group with Vocals, but lost to All- 4- One's "I Swear". Background[edit]Before "Stay" was commercially released, Loeb has had previous musical ventures.

After graduating from high school in 1. Brown University, where she graduated in 1. At Brown, she and Elizabeth Mitchell formed a band named Liz and Lisa,[3] with future singer/songwriter and classmate Duncan Sheik as a guitarist. The duo released the albums Liz and Lisa (1. Liz and Lisa - Days Were Different (1.

After college, bassist Rick Lassiter and TV and drummer Chad Fisher joined the band. After developing a following together, Loeb and Mitchell parted ways a few years after college. While talking about her past musical ventures, Loeb said; "When the song came out, though, I had been playing music since I was a little kid and I’d had gigs since high school, and I’d been making recordings for almost 1. I didn’t realize what an impact having a No. It connects me with people of different ages, and I get to travel all over the world."[4]She attended Berklee School of Music in Boston for a session of summer school, and in 1. Nine Stories. The band, which was named after the book by J.

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D. Salinger, included Tim Bright on guitar, Jonathan Feinberg on drums, and Joe Quigley on bass. Loeb began working with producer Juan Patiño to make the cassette Purple Tape in 1. It included the earliest recordings of later popular tracks such as “Do You Sleep?,” “Snow Day,” “Train Songs,” and “It’s Over.”[3] Loeb sold the violet- colored cassette to fans at gigs and sent it to music industry promoters.[2] Loeb and her band also made a recording of her song "Stay (I Missed You)" during the same time. Loeb was discovered by actor and friend Ethan Hawke, who lived in an apartment across the street from her in New York City.[5] She met Hawke through mutual friends in the NYC theatre community. Loeb had been performing "Stay (I Missed You)" to positive response at her shows, and Hawke gave a tape of Loeb's song to director Ben Stiller during the making of the film Reality Bites.[5] Stiller subsequently agreed to use the song in the film and on the film's soundtrack. Composition and writing[edit]"At the time I was having arguments with my boyfriend, who was actually my co- producer as well - we made records together.

And then I go off into some other areas: I remember somebody close to me was going through severe, severe depression. A lot of times in my songs, I get into some phase where I describe some other situation, and there's a whole verse in there about somebody who is very, very depressed. But yeah, it was a story about a breakup I was going through, and that situation where it's gotten into your head too much."[6]- Lisa Loeb talking about the inspiration of "Stay (I Missed You)"“”Musically, "Stay" is a pop rock song with folk rock influence. Vocally, according to a publication, "The tonal shifts in the vocals also are quite affecting. Loeb rants and rails through much of the song with barely contained emotion only to pull back for some tenderness in the refrain. It’s an outstanding performance of an enduring song."[7] The song is structured around a central passage of sonic catharsis. After the tentative opening, the pace and density of Loeb's roiling litany of self- recrimination increases; the personal pronouns pile up; the accents of the bass and backing voices grow unruly and insistent, like nagging, negative thoughts heaping on one another.[8]According to Rhik Samadder, Loeb's guitar picks out a simple arpeggio as she admonishes: "You say I only hear what I want to," warning us that this may be the most self- involved song ever written.

Almost every line contains a clutch of first person singulars: "I turned the radio on, I turned the radio up, and this woman was singing my song."[8] Based on the song's theme the break- up song is not about a relationship with a departed lover, but the relationship with ourselves [..] About accepting that our basic loneliness is unsophisticated and shared, and that we have to abandon the selfish dramas of our malaise to properly love. It's a point of emotional development [..]"[8] Regarding the lyrical content, Loeb's explained; ""I turned the radio on, I turned the radio up, and this woman was singing my song," Lisa explains: "That was when you hear somebody telling your exact story. It's funny, because it wasn't until later, after a couple of major breakups, that I realized when you're depressed and you're going through these breakups, the breakup was supposed to happen. If you're going through difficult times, it's hilarious how you turn on the radio and even the most cliché things perfectly capture how you're feeling. And then you realize why people wrote those songs."[6]According to American.

Songwriter. com, "Loeb’s lyrics definitely capture the breathless way of expressing oneself that was common at the time. Considering all of the lines that start with “And,” the song can seem like one big run- on sentence.

Yet in the midst of all of the breathlessness, she focuses enough to spin out several couplets that really nail the topsy- turvy feeling that romantic mind games can play on you."[7] According to the publication, they said that the lyric “Some of us hover when we weep for the other who was/Dying since the day they were born/Well, this is not that/I think that I’m throwing, but I’m thrown.” was "poetic".[7]Critical reception[edit]"Stay (I Missed You)" received positive reviews from most music critics. Stephen Thomas Erlewine from Allmusic highlighted the track as an album highlight. He said that the song is "gentle" and explained "That's because Tails delivers on the promise of "Stay." While the basic folk- rock elements of the song are present, much of the material on the record doesn't sound like her breakthrough hit; there are some distorted guitars here and there, and she even rocks out a little bit.

Nothing on Tails is as good as "Stay."[1] Another review from Erlewine from Allmusic was issued from the greatest hits The Very Best of Lisa Loeb. He said ""Stay (I Missed You)" took her from obscurity to minor celebrity when it was included on the soundtrack of Reality Bites [..] While Loeb never strayed very far from the sweet, gentle template she laid down with "Stay (I Missed You)," she always was friendly, melodic, and rather ingratiating."[9] From the Reality Bites soundtrack, "Stay" was the only song to be highlighted as an album standout.[1. Andy Kellman labeled the song "passionate" and a "classic".[1.

Another Pastor Bites The Dust – robshep. A few months ago a prominent pastor was let go from the church he planted. This past Sunday another prominent pastor stepped down. Pete Wilson started an amazing church in Tennessee.

He has written multiple books, and has seen God do amazing work. He built a church where, “No perfect people are allowed.”On Sunday he stepped down because in his own words, “I’m tired. I’m broken.”Reading about it Sunday I felt heartbroken. I don’t want to see any pastor step down. I hate that he is hurting. I don’t have a lot of answers. I don’t know his full story.

I’m sure there are things we will never know about what led to his decision. Whale Watching Season Gualala. Pete did say, “Most of you in this church only experience what I do on Sundays, especially those of you who watch online. You just see me when I kind of come up here on Sundays but the reality is as leader and the pastor of a church, what happens in between those Sundays is just as important and it requires a lot of leadership and it requires a lot of leadership energy. And leaders in any realm of life, leaders who lead on empty don’t lead well and for some time now I’ve been leading on empty.

And so I believe that the best thing for me to do is to step aside from Cross Point and so I am officially resigning as the pastor of Cross Point Church,”I am truly sad. This came on the heals of another pastor I know who is going through intense personal struggles. It feels like every where I turn pastors who are helping broken people are becoming more broken themselves.

Just like it’s not the pastor’s fault if a church member sins, it is not a church member’s fault if a pastor struggles. With that in mind I don’t think church people are responsible for a pastor’s struggle. At the same time I do believe there are things church members can do to support their pastor. It won’t mean a pastor won’t struggle.

Pastors are imperfect humans. Just like if a pastor does everything he can it does not mean church members won’t struggle.

But together I think pastors and church members can help each other. The main emotion I felt when I read about Pete is fear. I want to retire a pastor. I want to have a ministry where I finish strong.

I’m far from perfect. I make mistakes. I want to be able to learn from mistakes, continue to set up accountability, and get to the end of my life finishing strong. Every job has difficulties. This isn’t meant to compare struggles of other jobs. The pastor has some unique challenges that I don’t think anyone can fully relate to until they have walked in the shoes of a pastor. Here are some unique challenges pastors go through.

After spending hours prepping a sermon, memorizing a sermon, studying, and praying being told that you are not deep enough. Having people scrutinize your pay.

Because it’s “Church work” many believe being a pastor means living as an indentured servant to the church. There are some pastors that live extravagantly or have abused church finances. There are also church boards who make it their job to pinch every penny. If a pastor drives a new car someone will complain, judge, and assume he is in it just for the money. I’ve heard so many complaints against pastors making money it has permanently left a mark. I don’t even mean to, but I feel I have to explain how we can afford to take a vacation, go to the movies, or buy something new. I’ll often start a story with, “Our friend gave us their house in Nags Head for the week.

That’s the only way we could afford it.”Have close relationships end because of a decision you’ve made. This happens all the time in the church world. I just met with a pastor who ended up leaving his church because some elders were mad he didn’t want to hire one of their granddaughters as the worship leader. She was still in high school and had zero experience in it.

The church almost split because he kindly disagreed. This happens all the time. All. The. Time. Best friends become sworn enemies over night in the church world. Watch The Good Neighbor Online Hollywoodreporter.

I have seen more grace being shown towards Pastor Perry Noble after he admitted to struggling with alcohol than I have seen towards a pastor who disagreed with a church member, staff member, or church board. No one can keep all people happy. The pressure is unreal once a pastor realizes every relationship is one decision away from ending. When relationships end it’s never pretty. Many times the pastor learns the relationship is over from a third party source.

Other times when the pastor is told a person is leaving a church the message seems to come out of no where. Loneliness. Loneliness comes from multiple places. Because relationships can be fragile a pastor has to be incredibly careful who he trusts. When a pastor struggles there aren’t many who he can confide in.

Often what is confessed ends up being ammunition against the pastor once church members become upset. According to Lifeway Research 5.

Loneliness often comes because when things go bad pastors tend to try to take the high road. If a pastor posted the things he has seen behind the scenes it wouldn’t do anyone any good. During difficult seasons many pastors take the heat and never share their perspective. This isn’t saying every pastor is perfect. Pastors are imperfect people who can hurt others. But in a lot of instances when someone gets mad they blast the pastor to many people and the pastor is left trying to pick up the pieces with just his family.

No one but my wife and counselor knows the full details of what led me to see a counselor. I attempted to blog about some of the struggles without being specific.

That post led at least one person leaving the church. The feeling of loneliness during that season still weighs on me. Having to deliver a sermon when you are spiritually empty. Every human I know goes through seasons in the proverbial desert.

Sunday comes every week. No matter what is going on the church needs the pastor to deliver. Have you ever cried through an entire worship set and then had to get up to preach? Pastors must take care of themselves, but even the healthiest pastors go through seasons. Pete Wilson talked about trying to lead on empty.

I don’t know a single pastor who cannot relate to that. Temptation. No one asks the pastor about how he is dealing with temptation. It just doesn’t happen.

But pastors are human. They struggle just like everyone else. With a lack of accountability it is easy to let things slide. Other times the pressure of the church world is so weighty a pastor literally feels the only way to escape is to sabotage his ministry by giving into temptation.

Please know, this post is not directed at anyone. I am in no way trying to be passive aggressive. I’m posting what I believe is a common struggle in hopes that no matter what church you call home, you’ll have a unique insight into the struggles your pastor may face. At the end of the day I think there is one major thing all of us can do to help pastors. Don’t turn a pastor into a saint and don’t turn him into a sinner. Here’s what I mean. Often people make pastors into saints.

It’s as if when they poot it does not stink. Every pastor is imperfect.

Do not wait for them to let you down to discover this. No pastor should be put on a pedestal. Sure pastors should have honor showed to them. That’s biblical. But honor doesn’t mean creating them into something they are not…perfect.

At the same time whenever we get upset with a pastor let’s not turn them into the devil. A disagreement doesn’t mean everything about them is pure evil. Disagree. You might even have to leave a church over a disagreement. But unless the disagreement is over sin resist the temptation to turn the pastor into the anti- christ. If you know a pastor spend time praying for them right now. It is not up to the church to keep a pastor emotionally healthy, but they can help. Show me a pastor who retires at an old age without a scandal and I’ll show you some amazing Christians who have supported him throughout the years.

It takes a village to run a church. What were your thoughts reading this post?